Episode 46: Using The "Artist’s Date" to Overcome Your Fear of Starting Your Business

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Using the "Artist’s Date" to Overcome Your Fear of Starting Your Business

Episode 46

When you’re too scared to start your own business, it’s so much more than a professional issue. It’s a spiritual one. So the best way to solve a spiritual problem is a spiritual solution.

That’s what I’m offering today: I want to offer you a strategy to get your creative juices flowing so you can overcome your fear of starting your own business.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why getting over your fear of starting your business is a spiritual problem and how to solve it

  • How to use play and “The Artist Date” to build your courage

 
 

When you’re too scared to start your own business, it’s so much more than a professional issue. It’s a spiritual one. So the best way to solve a spiritual problem is a spiritual solution.

That’s what I’m offering today: I want to offer you a strategy to get your creative juices flowing so you can overcome your fear of starting your own business.

It’s a matter of vitality, your vital, living energy being stuck. Blocked. It is not unlike a creative block. Because it is a creative block. If you have not noticed yet ya’ll, I truly believe the entrepreneurial journey is a creative journey which is a spiritual journey. It all makes it way back to spirit.

Today, I want to offer you a strategy to let the juices flow. Let the energy come back into your life and stop being dammed and shored up by fear.

Being too afraid to start your business is very similar to having muscle knots.

Now a quick Google search revealed that what we commonly refer to as a muscle knot is called a myofascial trigger points in the medial community. #learnsomethingnew. But these muscle knots are areas in the muscle fibers or the tissue below the muscle fibers tense and tighten. I had some serious knots in my trapezius muscles which is the triangular band of muscle below your neck and down your upper back. Probably through being hunched over a computer most hours of the day and from overuse during silks. There were very painful so I did PT for them and did a deep tissue massage.

Now, the massage therapist and the PT told me that they were doing different techniques to achieve the same result: Bring blood and heat to the “knot” so that my own body can release the tension. The massage therapist did this through deep tissue massage. Which hurt like a bitch, but did really help. And my PT did this through helping me how to use different muscles and through acupuncture.

But the whole point of this exercise was to apply some pressure to the spot just to get some blood flowing there. Bring some heat to relieve the tension.

Beautiful metaphor for life no? Beautiful metaphor for creativity and business no?

Yes!

Working Your Knot Out with The Artist’s Date

The exercise I’m offering today is not meant to barrel you through your fear. I just want to get the blood flowing, get your healing energy to the tender and tense part of you. Slowly, we’re working that knot out. How you ask? Through play!

I got this idea from Julia Cameron, who is an artist, creative teacher, and just incredible creative human being. Cameron’s book The Artist’s Way truly helped me heal some creative and spiritual wounds that I had. It is loaded with incredible exercises and strategies that are intended to help you reclaim as sense of spiritual and creative health.

One of those exercises is the Artist’s Date. The Artist’s Date is in Cameron’s words “a once-weekly, festive, solo expedition to explore something that interests you.” This is low stakes playtime. It is simply a regular commitment to immersing yourself in things that interest you.

When I did The Artist’s Way, I did “artistic things” like going to the Fine Arts Museum, drawing at my favorite coffee shop with my chai latte with soy milk. But I also did things like go to an Emily King concert, which was my favorite because I love Emily King. And it was the first concert I went to by myself and I loved it.

The Artist’s Dates Remind You There is Creativity and Courage Everywhere

What I found so powerful about the Artist’s Dates is that they just reminded me that my entire life was not doom and gloom because I felt blocked professionally. Just because I had a knot in one part of my body, did not mean I had knots all over. Did not mean I was a knot. I just had a sore, tender part of my experience and life that was not an uncontrollable beast. The Artist’s Dates were also powerful because they, slowly, sparked so many creative ideas.

A lot of them had nothing to do with my business. I cannot say I can draw a straight line between any one thing I did during this time and the business I have today. But I do know just being able to see that I still had creativity inside me, to know I could still laugh and play was like awakening a part of me that was asleep.

It was humbling. It was humbling because I became arrogant in my pain. I became so sure that me being miserable in my job and stuck because I was too scared to start my own business but wanted to was there was. It was THE story of my life. It was THE right story. I just knew that I was capital R right to be in pain. But putting myself in these creative, interesting experiences, humbled me. It humbled me because I had to question whether I was RIGHT that misery was the only route through this. It humbled me because I had to question whether or not I was right to be miserable and to brandish my miserable flag and be annoyed my people who did not respect my misery.

Your Turn. Rules for The Artist’s Date

I want you to try the Artist’s Date. I want you to commit to one day a week to taking yourself on an Artist’s Date. Once a week for the next 4 weeks, pick one thing that has nothing to do with anything but seems interesting to you. But here are some ground rules:

  1. Your dates should all be different. Don’t choose: New restaurant every single week. You only have 4, switch it up.

  2. Your dates cannot be an afterthought. Put some effort into this. Take some time to think of the things you have not done in a while, not rollerblading or swimming. Or think of some things you’ve been wanting to do for a while but just have not made time for yet.

  3. Commit to all four. Whether you think you deserve them or not. Whether you feel like it or not. Four dates. Show up for yourself.

  4. Enjoy. The Artist’s Dates are meant to be enjoyable. Don’t choose things that do not interest you. Girl, if you cannot stand museums do not go to a museum. You want to go try on clothes in Lord and Taylor and buy not nary an item, go right ahead!

So my friend, try it out. Use the Artist’s Date to get your creative juices flowing. And let’s just see what you create at the end.

 

intro and outro music: danosongs.com


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Danielle Callendar